2012 BlogsNew Year Resolutions – 31 December 2013
Many will start 2013 with a set of resolutions, or maybe even just one, but how many will achieve them? One thing you can guarantee is that if you simply have a wish and leave it at that, it is unlikely you will fulfil it. This is why you may have fallen short of your targets many times in the past.
Instead of resolutions, think of New Year goals, then write them down and break them down. In other words, put on paper what you want to achieve and then break it down into the steps you need to undertake to achieve them. Write down those steps too. Follow each step to stay on-track and you will reach your goal. This is because if you have correctly calculated all the factors necessary to reach your goal and you attain all of those factors, then it goes without saying that you will arrive at your goal.
Also have a short statement as well as a picture, both of which represent your goal. Place these somewhere you will see them several times throughout the day. Along the way, regularly imagine what it is like to have achieved your goal, which will spur you on to doing the things you need to do to make it happen.
These basic steps will make a huge difference to realising your goals. In fact I’m writing a goal setting book outlining this in more detail. It is my goal that it will be available to purchase by Spring 2013 and I am using the above approach, and more, to achieve it.
In the meantime, if you want support on achieving any goal, whether it be an emotional concern or any mindset challenge, simply call me on +44 (0)7973 288988 to book an appointment to see me or to take up a Skype session and I’ll personally work through your objectives with you and help ensure you achieve them.
Good luck with all your aspirations for 2013 and Happy New Year!
Does your mindset stop you from exercising? – 29 November 2012
Are you the sort of person who on one hand can appreciate that regular exercise is going to bring health benefits and acknowledge you ought to incorporate it into your life, yet on another hand fail to maintain appropriate activity levels through lack of motivation?
Would it make a difference if you only had to conduct a high intensity workout 3 days a week and even then for only 1 minute a day, split into just 20 second bursts at a time?
“Impossible!” you might say “How can three minutes of exercise each week help make me fit?”
According to research, simply 3 minutes of High Intensity Training (HIT) exercise every week for at least four weeks could bring about significant beneficial health changes in a number of key areas.
The idea is that you have to go absolutely flat out during each 20 second segment, using not only the legs but also the upper body, including arms and shoulders. Therefore exercise bikes, rowing machines, elliptical trainers and skipping are some of the convenient ways of approaching this. Whatever machine or type of exercise you choose, you should be capable of doing it at a very intense level throughout each spurt.
20 seconds of vigorous concentrated exertion does not pass by quickly nor comfortably. You will be severely tested to maintain that level of effort for the entire duration. Consequently it is best not to rely on your own assumption of when the time is up. Get someone else to time you, or set up a timer with a buzzer/alarm at the end.
After a month or so, most people generally increase their benefit in many areas such as insulin function, fat control, likelihood of type-2 diabetes, stroke and coronary heart disease risk. Aerobic fitness however, which is a good indicator of future health, is not achieved by all. This is because around 20% are non-responders due to their genes. Nevertheless it seems at least several advantages will be gained by the vast majority of people.
Of course some might say you should really also add longer-routine activities to optimise your regular health programme, but perhaps HIT is better than doing nothing at all.
Also it is worth pointing out that any intended new exercise regime should be discussed with your doctor prior to embarking on it, particularly if you have a pre existing condition.
Further information on HIT can be gained from the BBC News article in the link below.
So you want to know how to spot a liar? – 20 November 2012
There is no sure fire formula for spotting lies, so lie detector tests and many other supposed systems are not fool proof but there are patterns that help with ascertaining the truth. The follow points, collectively titled as a Statement Validity Assessment (SVA), have been developed by German psychologists when trying to determine the credibility of a child’s testimony with regard to alleged sexual offences. If they EXIST it is more likely that the TRUTH IS BEING TOLD, therefore the absence of these factors tend to indicate a story is being fabricated. Of course, for numerous reasons, such as differing personalities, these points cannot be cast in stone and obviously people can learn about the factors laid out in the SVA and thus employ them when telling a lie in order to give the impression of truth.
Therefore use this blog as a guide rather than a definitive list.
The statement offered is coherent and logically consistent. However note that logical does not necessarily mean plausible
Unless something has been told many times previously, true stories tend to move erratically through the timeline of the narrative in a non-chronological order. Even if the story is chronological, emphasis may be placed on the essential point of the communication prior to outlining the narrative and filling in any background
QUALITY OF DETAILS
Statements will be rich in details such as locations, sights, smells and feelings. A typical liar tends not to elaborate on details
Events are placed in a time and location related to the person’s daily life as opposed to isolated events. eg “I was in the office doing my usual evening clear out of emails when a client called asking me out for a drink. As I left I told the cleaner not to disturb the papers on my desk and went to that pub near the Chinese restaurant were we often go”
DESCRIPTIONS OF INTERACTIONS
Stories that are true usually encompass statements containing information on how the narrator has interacted with the main characters in the story. eg “He asked me if I could get involved in his next overseas project, which is odd because he knows I don’t like flying, so I felt a bit hesitant about taking it on”
REPRODUCTION OF CONVERSATION
It is rare for someone who is inventing a story to state any specific dialogue used. Liars tend to summarise what people said. eg They will tell you that they reminded him they didn’t like flying, as opposed to stating “I said to him, ‘You know I don’t like flying’”
UNEXPECTED COMPLICATIONS DURING THE INCIDENT
Mentioning things that occurred which were not expected or planned. eg Car alarms going off, glasses breaking, the pub not having the drink the client wanted
Things along the way that stand out. eg The fact that the bar staff all wore red uniforms
Details that are non-essential to the situation. eg The landlord’s dog came into the room and sat by the fire
ACCURATELY REPORTED DETAILS MISUNDERSTOOD
Mentioning of details outside a person’s scope of understanding, such as the client having a new computing gadget, which the narrator is not familiar with but describes in naive detail by imagining what it does
RELATED EXTERNAL ASSOCIATIONS
Unimportant factors that have been brought in as part of the account. eg Something irrelevant to the story that the client mentioned
ACCOUNTS OF SUBJECTIVE MENTAL STATE
Description of the subject’s feelings during the incident or a change in their feelings. In other words the thoughts running through their heads at the time
ATTRIBUTION OF PERPETRATOR’S MENTAL STATE
Speculation of the mental state or feelings of any other main characters within the story, such as commenting on how the client has such a persuasive character
Inserted additions or minor corrections tend to make a story more convincing. Examples of both are demonstrated. eg “He was jotting down notes on a tablet – it was one of those new Windows tablets – and he only had a couple of drinks, well actually he did have a coffee after his second drink
ADMITTING LACK OF MEMORY
Someone telling the truth doesn’t worry about spontaneously admitting details they can’t recollect or memory lapses when conveying something. eg “I can’t remember why we chose that pub.” However a lack of memory to a straight question by simply saying “I don’t know” is less likely to qualify as an honest memory lapse since a truthful person would probably add why they didn’t know.
RAISING DOUBTS ABOUT ONE’S OWN TESTIMONY
Truthful people are more comfortable in admitting certain parts of the story might be wrong or misremembered and tend to be less defensive when challenged on it
An honest person is usually prepared to provide details which might incriminate them or make them look foolish. eg “I realise it would have been better not to have accepted those last two drinks and take a taxi back earlier”
PARDONING THE PERPETRATOR
Sometime the self-deprecation can extend to pardoning the guilty party. eg “It wasn’t the client’s fault I stayed there so late, I should have had more sense to come home”
There is also a commonly held belief stemming from Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP) maintaining where people place their eyes when speaking is an indicator of how they are communicating and you can tell whether or not they are lying from this. It does not stand up to scientific scrutiny and again is an indicator. It is more important to establish a pattern of their eye configurations when they are telling the truth and then measure this against the eye accessing cues they demonstrate when you believe they are telling a lie.
Common NLP protocols state that when someone looks to their upper right they are visually constructing something. Horizontal right is said to denote auditory construction and inner constructed feelings are accessed from looking down to their right. Upper left conveys visual recall, horizontal left is auditory recall and internal dialogue is meant to come from looking down to their left. So basically construction equates to lying, whereas recall is truth. As stated, this is not a universal pattern and some people access information by using the eyes differently or simply staring straight ahead. Many laboratory setting tests have been done on this and none as yet have conclusively proved the NLP model.
Other indicators of truthfulness are from muscle movements throughout the body as well as body positioning and gestures, some of which are very subtle and discreet. Once again it is important to calibrate to someone to get an indication of what they are like when open and relaxed, against how they are when stressed and/or inventive.
If you like this blog and are interested in the potential and power of the mind, why not become a member of the LinkedIn group, Mindset Point, where you can read about or contribute to all aspects of the human psyche? To join visit: https://www.linkedin.com/groups/Mindset-Point-3773501
Are you looking to Stop Smoking? – 12 October 2012
With Stoptober in the UK well under way, how are you smokers managing?
Some of you will be finding it fairly easy to hold off from the cigarettes and if you manage to maintain your smoking cessation for the whole month, it may be that you will simply continue with it for good. If so well done!
If you haven’t been able to maintain your initial aim, don’t despair. Help is at hand and you can really do it if you want to become a non-smoker.
I took a few attempts back in my twenties before becoming totally free of cigarettes when I was 29. And that’s exactly what it is – freedom. It’s amazing not to be held slave to something and to be able to make my own choice to be healthy and to maintain it. I feel so good as a non-smoker, it’s what I want to be, and you can too!
Using a combination of hypnotherapy, NLP and positive mindset approaches, all of which I can provide for you, you can enjoy the freedom and health that comes with being a non-smoker.
Give me a call now on 07973 288988 to discover how. If I don’t answer, I’m probably busy helping yet another person quit smoking, so simply leave me a message and I’ll get back to you as soon as I can to support you as the next one in a long line of success stories.
Find out more at www.mindsetsynergy.com or see some of my actual YouTube success stories on www.mindsetsynergy.co.uk/11/Stop-Smoking.html
London 2012 Olympics Mindset – 6 August 2012
London 2012 Olympics: Sporting Mindset has same vital ingredients as Life’s Mindset
Now that we are currently in the middle of the 2012 London Olympics, we have had the opportunity to see top athletes perform for 9 days and there is still almost a week remaining. Thereafter we have the benefit of the London 2012 Paralympics to come.
During this time there have been many successes but also many disappointments and tears. As with every event of this nature, not only have we observed anticipated victories but we have also seen surprising triumphs and unexpected losses.
Of course those right at the top of their game need the utmost degree of ability in order to compete and win. However innate talent on its own is insufficient since outlook and belief have to be there at the highest level too. When this is lacking, performance will be affected, which is why someone of lesser ability can often win through against a more capable person.
Very few of us are gifted to be world class sports men and women. Even so, much of what is required of us as we go through life on an everyday basis, whether it be work or personal ambitions, is about performance.
Just like international sport stars, our individual successes or failures will be determined not only by what we are capable of doing but by our mindset surrounding our goals and expectations.
Listed below are 6 fundamentals that can have a huge impact in steering us toward capability and accomplishment.
- General self-belief
- Belief in the outcome
- Eliminating the negatives
- Generating optimum focus to perform
- Creating the desired future in our mind and visualising it or living it
- Setting goals – this involves writing them down and regularly looking at them
All of us are capable of attaining so much more than we believe possible and winning our own personal Gold Medal if we just take a few elementary steps to help ourselves with the right mindset.
Hypnosis Techniques in Sales – 24 February 2012
I was interested in an article on LinkedIn Mindset Point Group on Hypnosis used in Sales Techniques and replied with the following.
I was employed for 7 years in various divisions of global travel company, Flight Centre, to work with some of their sales teams where we used a mixture of hard work, self-discipline, positive outlook, a great working environment and effective mindset techniques to win new business. I know these approaches work and so does that company, which has grown to become the 4th largest travel company globally.
In 2011 its business travel section, FCm Travel Solutions, also won pretty much every category in the World Travel Awards:
- World's Leading Travel Management Company
- Asia's Leading Travel Management Company
- Australasia's Leading Business Travel Agent
- Europe's Leading Travel Management Company
- North America's Leading Travel Management Company
I now have my own company where I undertake contracts to provide this service to organisations, which enables them and their staff to operate and trade more successfully.
If any business, anywhere in the world, wishes to take advantage of these highly effective approaches, then please feel free to contact me.